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The beautiful Rocsi has been a co-host of BET's hit show 106 & Park for the last 5 years. I'm sure there are millions of girls out there that would give their right arm to trade places with her in a heartbeat. Shes on TV everyday, gets to meet the hottest celebrities, free wardrobe,, hair and makeup, and gets the A-list treatment everywhere she goes. Oh the Life! But as life shows us time and time again, the grass isn't always as green as we think it is on the other side. Who knew that Rocsi had such insecurities about her body image??? Even Terrence J (her co-host) admitted that he never knew of her past eating dis-order before now.
It really pains me to see such a beautiful girl go through such unhealthy measures to lose weight. But I'm the last person that can criticize her. As the visiting Doctors explained they hear stories like Rocsis everyday. And my experiences aren't that far off.
In my very own group of friends it's so commonplace for us to criticize and think negatively about our body images. Now that I think about it I can't remember the last time I heard a female say anything positive about her body.
Being a thick girl it makes me nuts to hear my more slender friends point out their invisible "guts/rolls" etc. It's acutally quite comical to me. But these thoughts really are no laughing matter. It goes to show you how warped a person's perception of their body image can be.
I've never been a skinny girl myself and to this very day I have the habbit of binge dieting. Meaning, I go thru these periods of eating horribly and not working out, then all of a sudden I starve myself and try to lose a million pounds in the shortest amount of time possible, by any means necessary. I remember practically starving myself freshman year in college to avoid that dreaded Freshman 15. That year I hit the lowest weight I remember ever being in my adult life. A close friend and I would work out everyday (which is GREAT) and use Xenadrine pills to surpress our apetite (not so great). Only God knows what we were doing to our insides. Xenedrine with ephedra (the type we were taking) was banned by the FDA shortly after.
I never really took what we were doing that seriously but when I look back we were definitely suffering from eating disorders.
During this video Rocsi mentions how she tried throwing up as one of her weight lose methods but never really stuck to that method ONLY because she physically was unable to make herself do it. As sad as it is I also never successfully was able to make myself throw up and thank God for that (and for fingers the size of an 8 yr. old's) because that's probably the main reasons why I never really took to vomiting as a weight loss option.
This issue is way more common than we might ever know. I guess Rocsi said it best at the end of the video when she explains that, people should really not be so quick to judge a person that is "fat" or "skinny" because we honestly don't know what inner deamons that person can be battling to make them the way they are. And your insensitive opinion just might be the one to push that person off the edge instead of help them get things in perspective.
I must say that I am proud of Rocsi for having the courage to share her story. In today's world, everyone has an opinion and thanks to all the social networking sites we can share our opinions with the world, at the click of a button. Let's try to be kind with this new found freedom of expression! Be kind on the Blogs guys!!
If you have ever struggled with an eating disorder or knows someone that has or if Rocsi's story has touched you in any way please feel free to leave a comment.................
2 comments:
As a Trophy Wife you live a FAB life. That includes traveling all around the states and abroad, eating at the FINEST restaurants and the best foods. While you are traveling who counts calories? All that good eating caught up with me. I come from a very OUTSPOKEN family and they were the first to tell me “Gurl your hips are spreading.” At first I laughed it off but reality becomes painful. I got my nickname Star from my Dad when I was a child and that’s what most of my family calls me. Well I had a very hateful cousin who said “we are going to STOP calling you Star. You are round like the MOON so that should be you new name.” After that hateful comment I cried it really hurt my feelings. I told myself that I was going to loose some weight. I tried it ALL hydroxide-cut, diet pills, fasting ECT….. I also begin crash dieting. If it was an event coming up then I lived in the gym loose the weight for the event and then gained it all back. Finally I am at a happy place. I lost the weight the right way by proper diet, exercise, and help of a personal trainer, nutritionist and prayer. At the end of the day you have to love the skin you are in. I am so Blessed and Highly Favored. God has giving me a Fabulous body and I am grateful that my body had never failed me. I am able to walk, talk and breathe fresh air everyday who cares if I am doing that with a couple extra pounds. I LOVE THE SKIN I AM IN!!!!!!!!!!
KHARISMA
Girl, it's usually the ones that are closest to us and love us the most that can be the most critical and cruel towards us. At times my family makes me sick with the constant scrutiny of my weight. If I gain a pound it's commented on, if I lose a pound it's commented on... and the funniest part is that ALL the women in my family are overweight. I look at them like yall have to be kidding me smdh... look whose talking. But at the end of the day the best way to stick it to them is to be happy with who you are, like you said. I noticed a change in the last year or so within myself, and I have to credit my boyfriend for it. It's like I have so much to be grateful for and joyous about that 10 lbs lighter or heavier is the least of my concerns right now. NOT that I'll be estatic to be obese lol... but you get my drift. It's not ALL about the superficial.
And I feel you with regards to the eating out all the time. The night that I wrote this post my honey and I went out for drinks and I was like see... that's exactly the problem. But you know what; life is about choices... you can choose to have the filet mignon or the salad. You dont have to lock yourself up in a room away from all food just to maintain a healthy weight. And that's what I'm workin on now, making better choices.
You know damn well you're always gonna be a STAR babes!! You're FAB!
Thanks so much for sharing!!
xoxo
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